I Am Tired of Holding Back
I am tired of holding back, trying to make straight, anti-gay people comfortable. ("Anti-gay" as in, "You think it's a sin." It's the most neutral term I know.) You're hurting us, no matter how much you love us. There's really no way to sugarcoat that. I'm sorry if it distresses you. (Though it's worse for us.) But it's not my duty to make you comfortable with me as a gay person. I'm different--accept me or not.
I wish you knew you didn't have to hurt us. Check out this link if you decide to bother listening to us. I would suggest listening to the people you love.
No, I'm not confused about how you really feel or what you really believe. Calling love a sin, IS hurtful and disrespectful. It's the only kind of romantic love that some of us can have. You believe God is unfair and plays favorites, and that we're not it. And then you wonder why we don't want to get saved (again).
And this isn't even talking about calling our love--and who we are--disgusting or an abomination. Use your head, and think about things before you say them. If it would hurt you, it would also hurt us. Treat us with respect. You can treat our relationships with respect, even if you don't agree with them. Just think of what you would say if you thought a straight couple wasn't right for each other. Be nice, like you would to straight people.
Part of the problem is that you refuse to listen to us about our own lives. You insist that we choose to be gay--we know that we DISCOVER we are gay. You assume that we were never real Christians, and we know that's not the case. You say we just want to sin, when we struggled with this issue for years. We have put more time, energy, prayer, and research into this than you ever will. It was our souls on the line, and it was terrifying that we couldn't change, that God wasn't changing us no matter how hard we tried. Imagine how you would feel, to discover you were gay. You would hate it, wouldn't you, with your beliefs? We went through all of that, and some of us didn't make it out alive. I will never understand why people think it's a choice, when some of us commit suicide over it. Why not just choose to be straight, if you can? Why not just choose to want to live?
Quit condemning us for giving up a fight that you have never had to fight. Quit condemning us for laying down a burden that you were never forced to carry. What was it I heard about a light burden and an easy yoke? Then why didn't we have that? As much as you insist, I know by experience we didn't--until we either accepted ourselves, or killed ourselves.
We are the ones who have to live out YOUR beliefs, not you. Listen to us about our own lives. Listen to your gay friends--don't just brag that you have them.
I wish you knew you didn't have to hurt us. Check out this link if you decide to bother listening to us. I would suggest listening to the people you love.
No, I'm not confused about how you really feel or what you really believe. Calling love a sin, IS hurtful and disrespectful. It's the only kind of romantic love that some of us can have. You believe God is unfair and plays favorites, and that we're not it. And then you wonder why we don't want to get saved (again).
And this isn't even talking about calling our love--and who we are--disgusting or an abomination. Use your head, and think about things before you say them. If it would hurt you, it would also hurt us. Treat us with respect. You can treat our relationships with respect, even if you don't agree with them. Just think of what you would say if you thought a straight couple wasn't right for each other. Be nice, like you would to straight people.
Part of the problem is that you refuse to listen to us about our own lives. You insist that we choose to be gay--we know that we DISCOVER we are gay. You assume that we were never real Christians, and we know that's not the case. You say we just want to sin, when we struggled with this issue for years. We have put more time, energy, prayer, and research into this than you ever will. It was our souls on the line, and it was terrifying that we couldn't change, that God wasn't changing us no matter how hard we tried. Imagine how you would feel, to discover you were gay. You would hate it, wouldn't you, with your beliefs? We went through all of that, and some of us didn't make it out alive. I will never understand why people think it's a choice, when some of us commit suicide over it. Why not just choose to be straight, if you can? Why not just choose to want to live?
Quit condemning us for giving up a fight that you have never had to fight. Quit condemning us for laying down a burden that you were never forced to carry. What was it I heard about a light burden and an easy yoke? Then why didn't we have that? As much as you insist, I know by experience we didn't--until we either accepted ourselves, or killed ourselves.
We are the ones who have to live out YOUR beliefs, not you. Listen to us about our own lives. Listen to your gay friends--don't just brag that you have them.
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